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Social Media Suicide Mission

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I had a social media meltdown last night on Facebook in particular. I can’t say that I have Twitter figured out yet, so I don’t spend a lot of time on there.

I started with Facebook the first day they opened to the public. My kids were in college and it was another way to exchange photos with them quickly and see how they were doing. I had friends and family on there. Maybe 80 people. I didn’t need 400 really. There are not 400 people in this world I really care to keep up with quite that closely.

Facebook, as you know, has changed over the years. Groups were added. People set up advertisement pages you could like and get info from time to time.

The ad pages have gone wild sending out dozens of posts a day, probably mechanically through some automated hootsuite-like operation. Most of the reader writer groups have turned into spam mobiles rather than actual discussion forums for people to discuss books.

Despite turning off all notifications, Facebook was slamming my newsfeed with strangers on a regular basis. It got so bad this past week that every time I signed onto Facebook I had this perpetual feed of authors promoting their books….dozens and dozens of them. People I don’t know and have never heard of. Seriously, if I want a book to read, I should be able to go to a group site and scan them myself for something that looks interesting. But having them slamming me on my newsfeed thirty or forty authors two to six times a day was ridiculous.

It got so bad that I couldn’t FIND any of my friend’s posts. I would scroll past twenty or thirty book posts just to find one post from a family member or friend. Then twenty or thirty book promo posts till the next family or friend post. I could spend an hour just finding five close friends most recent posts.

I really wish I could get rid of the gamers also…but that’s another subject.

Suggested posts that Facebook sends are a nuisance but, so far, there are not that many of them.

Pages I have “liked” get to be obnoxious sometimes.

So last night…I pulled out of fifteen Facebook Groups. The only one I stayed in was my writers’ group page, so I can keep up with my local writer peeps.

I unfriended a bunch of folk who bothered me with religious or political posts. I have political opinions, but posting something just so you can be mean and hateful in comments makes me not want to care about your opinions. The fact that you go downtown and wash the homeless people’s feet, pass out food and hygiene products while reading scripture is something I will applaud you for once…but when it turns into daily grandiose grandstanding, you don’t appear very humble and that just sort of negates the whole process to me. (And really, in those 250 pictures, you should have been wearing gloves, and changing the water for their health and yours.)

I “unliked” a bunch of pages that I had previously “liked” because you abuse the privilege of being invited into my home. You talk so much nobody else can get a word in edgewise. Yes, some of my favorite people…like Anne Rice and George Takei were among them. Send me one or two notifications a day, but ten or twelve and, honestly, I’ve just had enough.

Anyway, I logged out, and this morning I logged back in. There you all were, my peeps, my family, my friends. Things look a bit more normal on there again.

If I unliked or unfriended you in my mad frenzy and you miss me. Let me know. I may have done it in a heated moment by accident. If you don’t miss me, it probably wasn’t meant to be.

I may have just committed social media suicide, but my peace of mind has been salvaged in the process.

Am I just doing something wrong?

I tried adjusting privacy and notification settings to no avail.

Is there a better way?

Warm Fuzzy

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I wish I could have you feel this soft and silky blanket. My daughter bought it for me for Christmas.  My granddaughter, soon to be four, wrapped herself up in it and said, “Grandmother, this feels like love!”

For all my friends in cold places, grab a soft and silky blankie, wrap up in it and feel the love. I wish I could send you the real thing. Better yet, throw one around someone else and share the love.

{{{ WARM FUZZIES}}}

Celebrating Winter Solstice

The season officially changes today to wintertime with the Winter Solstice celebration. This marks the beginning winter_solstice_party_invitation-r33d79c2e5cb047998505147846a191f0_imtet_8byvr_512of our snowbird season. Tonight our friends meet at a home and gather around the fire pit. We draw a card from a deck. The host has a different deck and he draws out a card from his deck.  Whoever has the matching card picks a gift and then the next person can choose to take a gift from someone else or pick a new gift. The gifts are sometimes very nice ones, but most of the time they are gag gifts or something really unusual.  Sometimes you end up going home with what you brought. There is laughter and a whole year of stories to tell.

The party has all of the usual party favorites, food and drinks. There is soft music and dance music, but mostly it is a celebration of the season.  We have a mild seasonal change here in Florida at wintertime with cooler temperatures in the daytime and at night. It can get quite cold here in Central FL in January and February. It is often a wet and windy cold.

For us, the Winter Solstice is not so much about winter spirits, frost, snow, sleet, ice and frigid temperatures. It is more about the return of folk from up north. The snowbird friends are back for the season and there is a sense of joy and happiness in meeting these people again. The streets are busier and the community has a temporary growth. Reuniting and spiritually reconnecting with old friends and knowing that they are safe and healthy brings us a sense of peace and pleasure.  The return of the snowbirds, who stay from winter till spring, is the primary cause for our celebration.  We are glad to see them return, year after year.

However you celebrate the coming of the winter season in your community, I wish you joy!
Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Have a Happy Holiday season !

We will be celebrating Christmas with my daughter and her family and my stepson on Sunday.  Then, we are off to Naples to visit more family and play on the boat while a friend house sits for us and tends to the dogs, cat, and bird.

I will not be posting next week, but may be checking your posts and making some comments via the iPad.

♥ I’m Lonely and I Miss You ♥

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Every day, I invite hundreds of people into my home.  We laugh, we cry, we banter.  I love the company and can’t wait until the next day to start all over again. I have had to put myself on restriction. Last night, I had to cull my email.  I was getting dozens hundreds a day and being the anal person that I am, I couldn’t go to bed without reading them all.  Most of them I just have to respond to.  It’s my nature.

Until I retired,  I was a social butterfly in real life.  Things changed after I found myself going out less and less.  Sometimes I think people just don’t understand me. I am open-minded, and have a weird sense of humor. I am often opinionated and just plain “Out There”.  I care about you and I love being an integral part of your lives.  I am; however, sleep deprived, because sometimes I am reading email until 3:00- 4:00 in the morning, (and I get up at 6am-7am).

I am also not getting much work done around here.  There are clothes in the washer, clothes in the dryer, enough dog hair on the floor to stuff mattress with, and a sink full of dirty dishes every time I turn around, no matter how many times I empty and load the dishwasher.

So, if you don’t see me around so much in comments anymore, know that I haven’t forgotten you. I will still post SOMETHING almost every day. I will still review my Reader thirty minutes in the morning and thirty minutes every evening.  I still love what you do and am grateful to be part of your family and friends. My next book IS REALLY going to get written. (Seriously, it must!) And most of all, I LOVE YOU!

A Wonderfully Simple Award

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I just got awarded the WordPress Family’s Award by one of the greatest illustrators on wordpress! THANK-YOU VERY MUCH!!!! We love you Deanz Doodlez!

The rules are simple: Here are the rules and my 10 Nominees:

1 Display the award logo on your blog.

2 Link back to the person who nominated you.

3 Nominate 10 others you see as having an impact on your WordPress experience and family.

4 Let your 10 family members know you have awarded them.

5 That’s it, just please pick 10 people who have taken you as a friend, and spread the LOVE!

I tried not to choose the same friends and family as Dean, even though we share many mutually: MY 10 Nominees:

Marie, Patti, Julian, Marian, Helen Midgley, A different John, Helen Valentina, Briana Vedsted, Mark Paxon, Sarah Cradit